When I was in 6th grade, my best friend moved back to town, and Mama would always take us to do things together after school. One of our favorite things was going to a place down by the levee called the Sand Bar. It was almost always half empty, and when we got there, my parents would go sit at the bar. We would head directly to the booth in the back and situate ourselves in front of one of the two TVs.

Here’s the best part: the cook would then come out from behind the back, hand us the remote, and ask us if we were having fries or a baked potato with our chicken tenders before leaving. Never had to ask anything else (unless we happened to have an off craving for burgers that day or something).

Then, we’d tune the TV to cartoons and break out our Yu-Gi-Oh! cards and duel. Well, one evening, we went to the bathroom together, and I realized there was blood staining my panties. So, I asked her if she had borrowed a pair of white panties from me recently, and she said no.

She had bloomed quicker, but I caught up in a few short months. I told her to go get mama (who was pretty horrified all things considered), and they told me to stuff toilet paper in my panties until we made it home.

It was a Tuesday, November, 2002. The 5th, if I remember right. It’ll always be one of my favorite memories. Since then, the Sand Bar has closed its doors. The cook supposedly moved to the bar across the street, but that was years ago.

Late at night, in the depth of me, I think about how we can’t go back.


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